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Well, thank you, Dr. Lors appreciate you taking my call.

Thank you. What's up?

Well, I'm 52 years old. I've listened to you since I was in my early 20s.

Um, oddly enough, my dad's the one that told me to start listening to you and today my problem is mostly with him.

Sorry, so nervous.

So my dad used to buy me the books and I read most of your books when I was younger and so my father and mother have always enabled my brother who is four years younger than I.

And he because because because why do they enable him why forget forget the cycle Babble term just paid a lot of extra attention to him because they thought they had to because why?

Well, I don't know why they thought they had to my father has said that he needs more than I need.

Because I don't tell me you don't know don't pretend you don't know.

Please don't do that. You know why your brother required more attention. Say it.

Well, in my mind, he's a loser. He doesn't. I don't know another word for it. He didn't do well in school. He didn't want to go to school. He'd never completed high school at one point.

If you know anybody who has no addiction problem who went into rehab.

No.

No. So people are going to rehab go there because they need extra attention.

And if you wanted to get as much attention as your brother was getting, you should not have done the wonderful things you did and became the accomplished person you are.

You should have been a loser. Then it would have been even.

So now you're not going to say I don't know. I had to pay more attention because he was worried about your brother. He wasn't worried about you. You're competent. Your brother is not.

So he didn't get more attention because he was loved. He got more attention because they were desperate and he was a pain in the ass.

True. Yes.

Okay. Now we have clarity there. So take me up to today.

So today, my brother, who is 48 now, almost 49 still with them, has worked a total of maybe a year or two in his entire life.

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