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I need some advice.

We're going to tread a little bit carefully because I am trying my best to thread the needle with my mother-in-law.

She keeps giving financial and career advice to my family, specifically my wife, that do not work for our family

situation and really do not work in 2024. So James, you do not have a problem with your mother-in-law.

She has your proxy war. You have a problem with your wife?

I would think that you are probably correct.

I am worried that my wife is going to listen to her mother.

My mother-in-law was able to raise four children in the Midwest through the 80s and 90s without working.

She, I don't believe, has ever worked a 40-hour-a-week job in her life.

She, a couple of days, you know, helping out at this nursery school, a couple of days here.

So what do you disagree on with your mother-in-law? What does she want your wife to do?

Stay at home? Well, yes, basically all of uh advice that she's giving involved things around we have two children under six and it's comments along the lines of you know when both the kids

are out of daycare my wife works as a daycare teacher as well um when the kids are out of daycare

you can leave that job and just

teach music lessons. I make 60 an hour teaching music lessons, and that's great, but that doesn't

make up for the income that we need in order to live where we do. Okay, but here's the thing, James,

who, who I have the greatest mother-in-law who's ever lived. She's amazing. And I expect my

mother-in-law to give the advice that she sees fit for how she wants the world to work. I acknowledge

that too. But when it comes to the life that me and my wife have to build for ourselves, she doesn't get a vote.

And so your mother-in-law can say whatever she wants. Good for her. That's awesome. It's amazing.

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