This is an IHeart podcast.

Guaranteed Human. It is time now for today, Strawberry Letter, and if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HarveyFM.com. All you have to do is click, submit, Strawberry Letter, and we could be reading your letter live on the air, just like we're going to read this one right here, right now. You never know it could be yours. Could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it is. Strawberry letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject, my marriage or my pleasure. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married almost 20 years, and my husband has put me in a difficult position.

When we first got together, we were swingers for a few years. We only did it when we were on vacation,

and it was only with the couples we traveled with. We used to have an occasional threesome,

so my husband would be happy. He would not let me bring another man into the threesome,

so he let me go have sex with an old friend of mine a few times over the years.

But lately, my husband doesn't want to have sex at all.

He said he's had enough wild sexual experiences to last a lifetime.

It's not a medical thing because his stuff is still working properly.

It's been eight months since he's touched me. And on top of that, he changed the rules of our marriage. He told me that if he suspects I'm hooking up with my guy on the side, he will

leave me. I do not like ultimatum, so I told him that I need to be pleasureed, and since he's changed

his outlook on intimacy, I have to handle business elsewhere.

Two days ago, after work, I went to meet my side guy for drinks.

We planned to have sex after drinks, so we started fooling around at the bar.

I couldn't wait to give him a nice, long kiss.

As we were kissing, my husband walked up and asked me to leave with him.

I left, but I did not talk to him all the way home.

He has threatened to divorce me, and he said he will say I cheated on him in the paperwork.

How can he do that when we've, we've cheated on each other and with each other?

All of a sudden, he is a model husband and he's forgotten that he introduced me to this lifestyle.

I need to stay married because we have too many assets together.

But I need the D too.

...