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I have a little conflict with my husband and I wanted your input on the situation.

Sure.

For a little background, when we first started the baby steps, we were both working full-time,

and we decided to take a small allowance and put the rest on the joint account and pay the

bills and, you know, do the snowball. I physically paid the bills because he'd been kind of

inconsistent before. So over the time, it just kind of became my job. About two and a half

years ago, I became totally disabled and now all I get is a social security disability check. But his income grew

and he never told me. And I just found out that he's been keeping $2,600 a month of income that I

didn't know he was making. Now, 400 of that does go to a second retirement account. He's already

retired once and gets a retirement check.

And when I brought it up and tried to discuss all this, he refused to pause it or put any

of the extra money toward the bills and just absolutely refused to discuss it.

How did you find out?

Well, I did what you said.

And when I had, you know, became disabled, I called my creditors and started working with them.

And I was working with the IRS to forgive a tax debt.

And so I needed a copy of his latest pay stub.

And I can read a pay stub.

And first one I'd seen in like 12 years and discovered what he had been doing.

And he admitted it.

And when I asked him why he was doing it and didn't tell me he had been making more money and more side jobs,

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