Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from two to five PM Eastern time on serious XM triumph 11. Brenda, welcome to the program.

Thank you, Dr. Laura for taking my call. I would like to add by for a grieving mother.

But also I would like for you to I don't know even some input feedback even yell at me. Are you giving me too many assignments? Let's slow this down. What happened?

So my daughter passed away two weeks ago. She passed we knew this day would come. My daughter was born. If you allow me to share my daughter was born with a condition called trisomy 18. We demand no about her condition.

I planned a home bird, but at the time that she was going to be born we needed to go to the hospital because I never had a contraction at the hospital.

She couldn't be born via natural birth. So they had to induce me to go into a C section when she was born. She was only four pounds, three carlis that she was 39 weeks and almost 40 weeks.

They did not after she was born. We were just hit with bad new after bad new after bad new. She had a hard defect. We were ensuring what kind of Brenda Brenda.

Yes. I'm familiar with the syndrome. You don't have to clarify all the gruesome things that happened.

Yes. So they told me so you knew before the birth. No, no, that's the case.

Regardless. No, I don't please the story. You don't need to go on with it. I understand. So how can I help you today?

Yes. So she passed away three weeks ago of pneumonia. She lived to be 23 months old. She had a healthy life regardless of all the bad things.

And of course I'm sad. I'm missed her so much. She was my life literally. It might hold a revolt around her. I feel very guilty that coming to the point where she was sick.

I just treated her like a normal child because she didn't have any other condition or she wasn't ready.

I'm sorry. I don't understand the guilt part. What did you do wrong and bad? What did you do that was illegal and moral or ethical?

What did you do that requires?

I sort of just treated her like a normal child and I treated her wrong. Why is that wrong? Why is that wrong?

Because she wasn't a more child.

Well, why still why is that wrong? You're not explaining to me why that was wrong.

In the past she had had cold and fever and we managed to fall asleep.

Okay, let me try another way. Are you saying that the reason she's dead is because you treated her like a normal child. That's why she's dead.

I need a yes or a no. No. That's correct. So guilt is irrelevant.

There's not much of a lifespan sadly for kids with trisomy 18.

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