on today's show we talk to a man whose new stepson is

trashing his home he wants to know what to do next we also talk to a woman whose parents are getting divorced dad has gotten the drugs and she wants to know what to do next stay tuned

hey what's up what's up it's John with the dr john de loney show hope you're doing well wherever you happen to be I hope it's not freezing covered in snow it's cold here but it's beautiful outside

so hey we're so new books out make sure please please please go to john de loney calm and pre-order this thing comes with a pijillion dollars worth of free counseling a month for

counseling better help and audio books all kind of stuff I was recording the audio book the other day and I had this genius idea that gummy bears would help coat my throat and you just stand there for hours and you're reading and reading and they were working great but then James pointed out we're reading the section in the book where we talk about

what our food does to our mental health and our physical health and James is like this is kind of ironic that you're deceiving the audience by reading this section about sugar and junk food while your mainlining gummy candies and then Chris Miller decides to kick me while I'm down and says

since me this meme and it says I hope that when I inevitably choke to death on gummy bears people will just say I was killed by bears and leave it at that and I actually love that way to go man where to go but hey James you kind of gave me a get like a

what do you call like a ethical crisis a quit eating gummy bears over the weekend I just went cold turkey I'm done I'm off the I'm off the sauce

proud of you I'm never having one again as long as I live I will never eat another one

is the irony of you asking the journal prompts at the end of the chapter saying how often are you eating foods that are in packages and right below you

record the microphone as a bag of comic kid listen I hope this feels good James all right let's go to Michael in Philadelphia hey Michael what's up man

hey doctor john how are you today I'm you clearly see I'm still trying to figure out how to use this phone so sorry for hanging up on you just now I'm an idiot

okay I'll get it you'll get used to it I know right you think hey so what's up man how can I help

okay I'll give you the short story and you take it from there basically what I have is my wife and I are 57 years old

we started dating about four years ago and about a year ago she moved in with me and we got married last September

now since she moved in with me a year ago she let her son who's 23 years old move into her home we both had her own home she moved

into mine and she let her son move into her home now her son is a hoarder and we're now dealing with a year later with we have

John cars all over the lawn we have car parts all over her property the inside of the house is a mess and my instinct is to tell her

give him a give him an ultimatum or give him a deadline say hey you need to buy such an such a date you got to get rid of this stuff

or else and she's got a very difficult time doing that with him and I'm having a difficult time with her difficult deal

yeah because you know I don't want to overstep my bounds in a sense of you know me stepping in and dictating things to him you know I'm trying to do it through her

so are you the jess on a prenup of any sort how have you divided up your finances

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