Hi everybody this is God's ad today. I have another wonderful guest. I wish we weren't talking under these current circumstances. I wish that we were talking about academic stuff. I have Professor Shahai Davy Dye who is a assistant professor at

Columbia University's business school. We have a lot in common in terms of

academic background and that we both hail with our PhDs from Cornell and actually

Shai's doctoral supervisor Tom Gillievich is actually one of my professors at Cornell.

So Shai, welcome to the show.

Thank you for having me God.

And you know, it's interesting because there's always

this immediate kinship when you hear someone who cross paths with Tom Gilovich.

For me it's like you know it's a lineage kind of things.

Oh Tom is unbelievable you know and actually in my I guess you can't see it here

but in this book right here my latest book on happiness

I have a whole chapter on the psychology of regret and of course as you probably know maybe some of our viewers don't, so let me just mention it.

Tom was instrumental in studying the two sources of regret that loom over our heads.

They regrets due to action, regrets due to inaction, and it turns out that over the long-term view, the things that we didn't do, the inactions are usually the regrets that haunt us the most.

So yes, Tom is a fantastic guy.

Do you ever get a chance to go back to Cornell?

I try to go twice a year.

So Tom, our relationship has evolved from mentor, mentee, to colleagues to just friends.

You know, we're a generation apart, but we just enjoy each other's company. We did end up actually doing some

research on regret ourselves following up on his work in the 90s and you know one of the things that I've always loved about Tom's way of looking into research

and looking into life is that they are really, you know,

indistinguishable, right?

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