It began as a threesome, arranged through dating app Feeld - but soon Maggie and Cody realised their connection to Janie was more than sexual.  No longer just an adventurous couple in an open relationship, they had become a ‘thruple’ - whose relationship with Janie (their ‘third’) was as vital and equitable as their marriage to each other.  In this interview with Olly, they explain the importance of communication in a three-way relationship, the dangers of jealousy and bigotry - and the complexities of sleeping arrangements and decision-making when you love two people at once. If YOU have a story you’d like to share with Olly, send us an email via our feedback form. Content warning: brief mention to eating disorder in the Letters Section that opens the podcast. --- Meanwhile, in the Zeitgeist, Ollie Peart dons his VR headset (again) to discover what real-world skills he can glean from his living room.With the help of YouTubers Cas and Chary, and apps Survivorman, The Climb 2, Microsoft Flight Simulator and Marineverse Cup, he tries his hand at yacht-racing, skyscraper climbing and fire-lighting - only to find refuge in ‘DJ school’ Tribe XR. Whilst learning to use aftershave as ignition fuel. If YOU would like to challenge Ollie to test out a trend on a future edition of the show, submit it via our feedback form.  Ollie’s new Winter sports podcast, The Apres, is out now. This month’s Zeitgeist is supported by Virtual Game Night. Join over 8,000 other players who have livened up their Zoom calls at VirtualGameNight.Live/MANN, and use the code MANN20 for 20% off. --- Elsewhere, in the Foxhole, Alix Fox has details of how you can play with lightbulbs in your bedroom. In two unforgettable ways. And, in our listener question of the month, she considers inventive lockdown dating ideas, from ‘collabaroke’ to tarot-reading, and reveals how a socially-distanced ‘picture pic-tour’ nabbed her a boyfriend. If YOU have a question of sex you’d like Alix to answer in a future show, head on over to our feedback form. The Foxhole is sponsored by Handy - a WiFi-enabled sex toy for men, designed and developed in Norway. For free express shipping, use our code ‘Foxhole' at http://thehandy.com --- Over in music corner, St Vincent make a welcome return to our playlist of dreams. Their new one, 'Pay Your Way In Pain’, is out now. --- This episode is brought to you by below-the-waist grooming experts Manscaped. For 20% off and free shipping use the code MANN at http://manscaped.com/ We’re also proudly supported by Beer52, the world’s largest craft beer club. Join over 170,000 members and sample a completely FREE CASE of eight beers at http://beer52.com/Modern. --- We’ll be back on April 10th. In the meantime, send us a donation or get in touch via email - all details on our website, https://www.modernmann.co.uk/ Presenter: Olly Mann. Producer: Matt Hill. Contributors: Ollie Peart, Alix Fox, St. Vincent, Janie Frank, Maggie Odell, Cody... See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices