MPF 320: Super Habits for the Family

Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family

Parenting, Parent, Podcast, Marriage, Religion & Spirituality, Catholic, Christianity, Kids & Family, Family

5 • 739 Ratings

🗓️ 10 February 2025

⏱️ 76 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever wanted to stop yelling at your kids? Be more courteous to your spouse? Or be more orderly at home? Enter Super Habits! These are not just new things for you to learn to do, these are life-changing actions that will make you happier, healthier and more successful in many areas. In this interview, we spoke to Dr. Andrew Abela, author of the book Super Habits and his wife Kathleen who explained to us how to apply this book to family life. They gave us some great insights and showed us how Super Habits can be the answer to what we all need in our parenting and marriages. And the best part is that these habits are already present in us, we just need to activate them. Listen in!

Key Takeaways

Every virtue is a habit anyone can cultivate, not just a characteristic or personality trait. We can all grow and change.
All new habits create new neurological pathways in our brains, but the advantage of Super Habits is that these are pathways that are native to us already, we already have the “muscles”; we just need to use them.
Super habits do three things - they make us happier, healthier, and they have a positive effect on multiple areas of our lives.
St. Thomas Aquinas has the best system of organizing the virtues! We all need fluency in the language of virtues.
All growth in Super Habits is slow and steady so keep going!
Virtue happens when we channel our desires correctly - not squash them.
Growth in Super Habits is the answer to “helicopter” or “bulldozer” parenting
We need to be aware of the full range of virtues for the full flourishing of the human person.

Couple Discussion Questions

In what ways have we already developed some Super Habits? How did we do that?
What Super Habit will help us in our parenting? How can we support each other in cultivating it?

Resources

Superhabits Book, Sophia Press: sophiainstitute.com/product/super-habits/
Andrew Abela on Linked In: www.linkedin.com/in/deanabela
Superhabits on Substack: superhabit.substack.com/
Cana90 - messyfamilyproject.org/programs/cana90/

Beloved Event - arrayofhope.regfox.com/beloved

Transcript

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0:00.0	Family, all in this together.
0:08.1	Family, we're taking a chance.
0:10.8	Family, like birds of a feather.
0:13.3	Family, get off my shoes and dance.
0:15.4	Hey, we are Mike and Alicia Hernin.
0:17.4	We have 10 kids and grandkids too, and we are here for every parent. Because we are on a
0:22.2	mission to empower moms and dads to embrace their sacred calling. So join the conversation.
0:28.0	Welcome to the podcast. We're so glad you joined us. As we talked about last week, we are in our new studio.
0:39.3	And loving it.
0:40.7	And it's a new year for us as we've lacked this podcast thing for 10 years now.
0:48.0	In light of it being 10 years, we decided to do something different with our Lenton program. For many of you,
0:56.2	have heard us talk about Canaan 90 before. Yeah. And we decided we wanted to do something
1:02.4	different. We have the same free emails. If you want to sign up and be encouraged and
1:08.4	inspired. We also have the printed and digital version of that,
1:13.1	but we're offering a new experience. For those who are members, you get this bundled in and free.
1:20.3	So check your email to join this, what we're calling the Cana, Cana 90 Fellowship.
1:26.9	That's right, because we're not meant to do Lent alone.
1:29.2	And we as married people, our Lent should look different than other people whose vocation is not marriage and family.
1:36.0	But if your vocation, your path to holiness from God is your marriage and your children.
1:41.4	Well, and Lent is a time of like resetting and reconversion for all,
1:47.4	all of us. Let's use this time to focus on our family, but we're going to do that together.
1:52.4	So we'll have videos. We'll have some special interaction with us during Lent. We'll have
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