I will bet that every complaint in your life really represents a racket that you have that about which you are complaining in your life because it somehow makes you right.

You watch the way people use their illnesses. You watch the complaints that people have about their work, about their jobs.

Most people's complaints about their work, about their jobs are a way or a racket which enables them to avoid the domination of their job like an opportunity.

See, if your job showed up like an opportunity like the possibility of making a difference, like the possibility of making a contribution, if your job showed up like a space of freedom in which to express everything that you had, everything that you were, then you'd have to be responsible for the opportunity your job is.

But as long as you can say they and it and the boss and the circumstances of your job and they don't listen, I say that that's a racket.

And I'm inviting you to take a look at your complaints like a racket. The complaints about our work to the most part help us to avoid the domination, help us to avoid the responsibility of the opportunity which our work is.

You know, I know in your relationship you're saving something, you don't give everything you got, you're saving a little bit.

Because someday the guy is going to come on the white horse, and when the guy comes on the white horse then you're going to give everything.

But not to him.

Or not to her. No, they don't understand you. They don't fill in your own complaint.

Whatever choice you make in every interaction you have, make the choice to be at peace, your sacred or higher self says, whereas your ego says, oh no, no, no, no, it's much more important to be right.

And so we find people in relationships struggling, struggling a lot. And one of the things that they struggle about is who's right and who's wrong.

Most of the fights that you have in your relationships really basically, when you give often times you forget the details, but it's basically about who's right and who's wrong.

But I say that that lets you off the hook. That helps you to avoid the domination of the responsibility of holding your relationship as an opportunity to express yourself fully and totally.

See if only she's filling the blank. That's your racket. And when we get authentic about the kind of beings we are, the kind of beings that we see ourselves to be when we want to be authentic about it is a racketeer.

And the racket is whatever it is you're complaining about. You're too old, being a old's racket.

And I'm inviting you to stand in the possibility that if you want to be authentic about yourself and take an honest look what you're going to see as a racketeer.

And that's what life's about. The being of human beings leaves human beings as racketeers. We've got this racket. And like all racketeers we expect to pay off from the racket.

The racket, the pay office, we've got to be right. Your racket lets you be right or it allows you to make somebody wrong.

Lots of people in their 60s are still making their parents wrong. Still making their upbringing wrong. People would rather be right in their relationships than love.

You know what he did? Whatever he did is more important than love.

If you want to have your higher or your sacred part of you ruling in your life, I suggest this to you.

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