Often when we talk about marriage, we spend a lot of time in practicalities. I don't want to hear

all that stuff. Just tell me how to communicate better. Give me the hacks for a better sex life. Help me write a budget. All those things are not the engine. We want to address the spiritual health of the engine and help you diagnose it because there might be a sense in your life. I know that sometimes we get this way when we realize, hey, something's just kind of off. We're not feeling as connected. We're not in lockstep like we normally are.

We're not laughing as much.

We're getting after the kids a little too harshly.

Whatever the thing is, whatever that warning light is,

we often don't know how to diagnose what's wrong.

So we came up with these 10 diagnostic questions.

Oh, Selena, I wish, oh, I wish that if in the times when I feel like we're not spiritually flourishing, if there was a diagnostic tool for us to know.

There is, Ryan. There is. Oh, what?

But it's only half done.

Wait, there's more. There's only five questions right now. There's five more to go. Yes. So we were just joining us. Last week we started this conversation. You're not funny. Why are we not? I'm just saying. You're not funny. We're like Michael and Holly.

That's just. It's very true. We think we're funny. I don't know that you all think we're funny. It was funny until you said something about it. I'm sorry. And then I just got awkward. No. So we wanted to tackle this topic of how do we diagnose the spiritual health of our marriage? So if you haven't heard the part one of this, go back one week on the podcast or on the YouTube channel, find that because we go through these first five questions in greater detail.

One of the things we talk about in that episode is that these, these, so there's no aspect

of your marriage that is not spiritual.

Yes.

It is all what I like to say, Godward.

It is all Godward.

How I communicate has first to do with my relationship with God because if I'm humble before him,

I'm going to communicate in a way that recognizes that I answer to God for how I talk to this woman.

And that every area, every area of marriage is like that.

And so there's no sense in which we're growing spiritually. And that's separate from how we're

growing relationally, how we're growing intimately. They're all layered in. They're all

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