Lemonada.

Hey everyone, it's Gretchen and Elizabeth.

The episode that you're about to hear was recorded earlier.

So we're jumping in now to say how horrified we are by everything that has been happening in Minnesota.

We're thinking about all the people there,

particularly the families of Renee Nicole Good and Alex Prettie

and the others who've been killed by ICE.

So we'll get into the regular episode now,

but we just wanted to acknowledge what everyone is going through.

Thank you. what everyone is going through. Hello and welcome to more happier, a podcast where we get happier.

Today we're talking about one of the most challenging questions of

human nature. Why is it so hard to get ourselves to do the things we want to do? For example,

you may get frustrated because you can't get yourself to go to the gym. Your best friend goes

consistently. Or maybe you make a to-do list and then you end up refusing to do any of the items on the to-do list.

Or maybe you find it easy to keep promises to other people, but you struggle to keep your promises to yourself.

In my years of thinking about happiness in human nature, I've realized that many of these issues come down to how we

respond to expectations. That insight led to what I call my four tendencies framework. This is a

personality framework that I came up with that explains a lot of these issues. If this framework

is new to you, this episode will give you a clear introduction. And if you already

know your tendency, if you're an upholder, obliger, rebel, or questioner, it's a good opportunity

to review your tendency, especially as we head into the new year. First, I go over the basics. Then

Elizabeth and I discuss listener questions like how you can use your tendency to motivate yourself to exercise, how we can recognize different tendencies in people and even TV characters, and one questioner's surprisingly effective trick for getting himself to follow through.

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