Hello everyone and happy Sunday I hope you're having a lovely weekend and I wanted to share with you a moment, a highlight from tomorrow's episode where I am joined by the one and only Florence given.

For those of you who aren't familiar with Florence, she is a writer. She's written to incredible books, one called

Girl Crash and one called Women Don't Oh You Pretty and I highly suggest giving

them both a read. Here is the moment from tomorrow's episode. I hope you enjoy it and don't

forget to listen to the show tomorrow. I've experienced what I now realize through years of research and years of reading books and years of watching Dr. Ravanin's YouTube videos.

She's the world's leading expert on narcissism.

And I now realize I've experienced it many times and it's funnily enough for exactly the reason you just

said before about you said you understand that people do bad things because they're hurting and while that is true it's having that

belief at the forefront of my mind that has constantly excused the bad actions of other people

and have had me keeping my arms open to them.

And while relationship abuse is never your fault, there needs to be acknowledged that there's a pattern

forming, for me at least, I needed to acknowledge that there was a pattern forming, for me at least, I needed to acknowledge there was a pattern forming

of my own kindness, which is a beautiful thing, actually working against me.

And there's a quote around social media about empathy is incredible but empathy without boundaries

of self-harm and that is essentially what had happened to me is that I was such a

proud nice woman and I proud of myself on that identity

that even the idea and again that society programmed but it is my responsibility to change it no one else is coming to save me and I think that the really shitty thing to learn was that I had chosen these people and that doesn't mean it was my fault but there was something in me that

wanted to win over their approval and you know of course that game of approval seeking is created

by the narcissist with the love bombing and the affection and then the immediate withdrawal of this.

You literally have addictive symptoms where you need it back and they're the only person who can supply you this drug. They're the only person who can give you.

And then they give it back to you and then you're so happy and then they do the bad thing again.

And this is kind of the cycle that you get trapped in and the more that these acts of abuse occur,

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