Hello everyone and happy Sunday. I am very excited to share with you this moment from tomorrow's episode where I am joined by our favorite Mark Groves. For those of you who haven't heard of Mark he runs an incredible podcast and

brand called Create the Love and he was a guest a couple of seasons back on Saturn returns and we had a very special conversation and so I'm so pleased to have him back on the show because he's been an incredible teacher and friend to me and so you're

going to love this episode. Don't forget to tune in tomorrow if you want to hear from me and Mark and this very fun conversation

that we had which unpacks a lot around relationships and give me much food for thought listening back so you won't want to miss it.

There's space for all of us in the relationship, even the kid who wants most of the fucking cookie.

Like, I wanted that big piece of cake.

Seriously.

And there's only a few things that she'll actually take the bigger piece,

but it's usually something that she likes and I'm not as much of a fan of, but man,

I gotta tell you, never think personal growth is sharing like a dessert but it is.

No I love that because like I completely relate and I think everyone listening will and that

we'll all have our own stuff like you said it's I've been thinking a lot recently about how

relationships long-term relationships get to that point where they say I

don't know how we got here.

So I look at my parents, my parents a divorce,

and I think about it, and I think about it,

and I think at one point they were in love.

So how did they get to where you know they ended up? I hope my

mom won't mind me showing that but and so I've just because I've also never

really I'm like going into a long-term relationship now I'm in one and that's the first time for me and it brings up a lot of fear but I think that piece about the voice in your head it's like often that stems from a childhood experience where like you say you if you didn't eat that cake or like grab it while you could it was gone and for me it goes back to a thing of wanting to be perhaps so I seek in relationship

That kind of being taken care of thing that because of my how I showed up in not how I showed up that's the wrong way of saying it but my role in family was like the mediator and quite quiet and didn't want to make too much of a fuss of things because there would be an explosion so it was actually always trying to calm things down.

So now in relationship there's a part of me that's like I want to be taken care of I want to do you know what I mean because they didn't didn't get that and so I have to really notice it and my partner and I have conversations where he's like I have to notice and not play into the savior

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