Something that really struck me about your research on this is the repeated aggravation.

Is that actually something that can have a huge impact on the rage is just that drip,

drip, drip effect. Like I can hold the first time you're not going to put your shoes on.

I can manage that you're not going to get in your car seat. I can manage getting to the supermarket

and you not wanting to get out. I can manage you throwing the bananas. I can manage you getting to

the till and, you know, being rude you throwing the bananas. I can manage you getting to the till and,

you know, being rude or throwing the jar, but then when I try and get you back in the car

and you refuse to go in, that's when I flip. No, and the problem is that we only see the moment

of flipping. That's what everyone around us sees and that's what we see of ourselves because

all of the other factors that are impacting us as mothers are invisible. And the thing that's visible

is our fury and the way that we react to our partners or our children. And so it is very, very easy

to blame ourselves because as a society, we're used to blaming mothers.

We're comfortable laying blame in mothers laps. And also, you know, with the nuclear family

as like the moral way that you're supposed to sort of live in the world and raise children,

we're isolated in our little, we're each

isolated in our little homes. And so we have no context for mom rage. We don't know that the lady

next door is also raging and the mother across the street. Like we just feel like we are the worst

mothers in the world. And there's no messaging that would ever

tell us otherwise because all of the messaging shows mothers as being nurturing and patient

and endlessly kind. And I think there's so much pressure on mothers to be, you know, a quote

unquote good mother that when we step outside that tiny constricting box of good mother,

I think I think it's very scary. You scary. We wonder what's wrong with us. Yeah. And I think that's part of the problem,

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