So, values and goals. What is the difference? What is a value?

Sure. So, the way I would talk about values and goals in therapy is really around a goal

is something that you, once you achieve it, once you get there, it's done. So, you know,

your goal might be to get through your exams. Okay, exams are over, you're passed done.

A value doesn't finish or end. It's a pathway. If you imagine your life as a journey, for example,

it's a path that extends the whole of your life and it's something that you choose to always stay close to when you can.

And I think, you know, life will always take you in different directions. So, sometimes I will pull you away from a particular value.

But it's really about always evaluating and knowing where that path is so that you can pull back in that direction.

So, for example, when your career starts to take over because it's so busy and then you think,

oh, I was waiting my girlfriend a week, that's you going, that passed too far away now.

I'm pulling back. I need to head back in this direction because this is important to me.

And so, it's a kind of winding path where you're sometimes you're pulling away from it and sometimes you're going back towards it.

And something that I included in the book was these sort of little values check-ins that I would do.

And we do in therapy where we look at, okay, just look at the different areas of your life.

It doesn't have to be rocket science, doesn't have to be really kind of airy-fairy.

It's looking at, okay, what's important to your life? You might have family, intimate relationships,

health, creativity, you know, lifelong learning, career, contribution, those kind of things.

And then you could literally kind of split it up into boxes and put in each box words.

Not about, what's really crucial is it's not what happens to you. It's not what you want to happen to you.

It's how you want to respond to things, how you want to be in that area of your life.

What kind of person you want to be? So let's say you were looking at your, you know, romantic relationships.

What kind of boyfriend do I actually want to be? You know, what kind of partner do I want to be?

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