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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

Moment 92 - Find Out EXACTLY What You Want To Do In Life: Mark Manson

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

FlightStory

Society & Culture, Business, Education

4.613.2K Ratings

🗓️ 13 January 2023

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Summary

What do you want to do with your life? Does your answer change if you remove the idea of getting status, respect and admiration from it? In this moment Mark Manson explains how to find out what you ACTUALLY want from life. Mark discusses how you need to ask yourself honestly why you want what you want, instead of what everyone else says you should value. Because chasing this inauthentic idea of success with only leads you to dead ends and dark places.

Listen to the full episode here - https://g2ul0.app.link/mVt7Zig7hob 

Mark: https://www.instagram.com/markmanson/?hl=en https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor 

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Transcript

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0:00.0

I was watching your conversation with Tom Billion. I found it really, really interesting

0:09.7

and important because one of the things you talk about when we're talking about deciding

0:14.4

what you want to do with your life, whether it's a business or you want to be a pick-up

0:16.6

artist or whatever it is, is the importance of asking the question, why? And in the society

0:21.2

and culture we live in, especially one that's so driven by comparison, where your values

0:24.9

are almost being handed to you by Instagram and the Kardashians. This is how, this is what

0:29.0

you should value. I almost felt, I remember one day a kid came up to me after I did this

0:34.0

big talk on stage and he said, I want to be a public speaker. And he was like 17. And

0:39.6

you're thinking, but you've got nothing like, yeah, what are you, the talking about?

0:44.3

And really what he's saying is, he doesn't want to be a public speaker. He wants the admiration.

0:48.9

He thinks public speakers get probably because he's insecure. And so many kids, including

0:55.9

myself as a young kid, we don't actually know what we want. We have no fucking clue.

1:01.0

But what we probably want is not to be insecure and get laid. Like at the heart of it.

1:04.4

And the pursuit of that, as you've described, takes us down a dark alley to the wrong place,

1:09.2

usually a dead end as well. So how do I figure out what I actually want in my life without

1:14.9

it being Kardashian noise or Instagram? Like what does, what do I want? And how do I find

1:19.3

out? I think so it's a tricky thing, right? Because again, I think you could, you know,

1:25.8

you kind of have to get it wrong. It's like the relationships. You need to get a couple

1:29.6

wrong before you know how to get it right. And I think it's the same in pursuing a career

1:34.5

or finding a purpose in life. Like you need to get it wrong a couple times because we're

1:40.6

experts at tricking ourselves. You know, it's like that kid, he wants admiration, right?

1:47.6

But if you ask them in his head, he's like, no, no, I'm just really passionate about

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