One of the things I've heard you talk about a lot is your journey and your evolving relationship

with sex and sexuality and how that changed from when you were very young through the

period when you were drinking a lot until today.

Can you talk to me about that evolution and what you've learnt about those topics that

might benefit me?

Yes, absolutely.

So I'm going to sort of keep referring to my sobriety in that period of my life because

it was so transformative and it revealed so much to me, so much that I could have never

imagined at the time.

So something that also happened when I got sober, I think this was about a year into my

sobriety.

I realized just how much sexual shame I was holding, so much of it and I initially sort

of wanted to fix it, wanted to do something about it, what are some surface level things

that I can do, what can I read, what can I sort of dive into, how can I deal with it

from where I am now as a 25 year old.

But I quickly realized that I actually had to trace it back to see where it even comes

from and I realized just like so many things, it did come from my childhood.

Being raised in a Christian home, I learnt again, not directly, more so indirectly, that

being a sexual being was not something that was off God.

It was not something that was supposed to be a part of who I am.

Pleasure was never discussed, sex was never discussed, even intimacy in general.

I never saw my parents hold hands, I never saw my parents hold hands, I never saw them

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