Speaking of controversial topics, one of the things that's become surprisingly controversial

over the last couple of years is, and probably for a little while longer since the 17th

century, is this idea of accountability, which to me seems like much of the antidote

to self-sabotage is like taking personal responsibility for your life and your situation.

I've heard you talk about this.

I actually think this was the first, one of your first videos that caught my attention

was you talking about taking responsibility in a really, you know, a fairly direct way.

So tell me how taking responsibility, what that means to you, but how that helped you

to rise out of that phase you had from 14 to 24.

Yeah, oh, it was huge.

It was huge and it had to be one of the first things that I did.

Actually, as I think about this and sort of speak out loud, I think what allowed me to

get and stay sober that eighth and final time was taking personal responsibility.

I think all of the other times I had wanted to place blame on a lot of things outside of

me.

So my dad would have been the easiest person because he was an alcoholic and because of his

abuse and because of everything we experienced and because of the instability, because of coming

to a new country, moving to a part of the UK where just me, my sister and Curtis are

the only black kids, the adversity I experienced from that.

So I think there was so many ways that I could externalize, right?

But I think the moment that I was able to say, okay, well, Africa, what part did you have

to play in this?

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