Welcome to the Phoenix Helix podcast dedicated to autoimmune resilience. Today, I have a mindset minisode for you, so let's dive right in.

Thank you. Hey friends. So today's mindset minisode is focusing on the healthy power of learning to say no.

Many of us love to help others and we also love to please others, and this can make saying no challenging.

The trouble is that there are limited hours in the day, and we simply can't do everything.

And when we have autoimmune disease, learning to set limits is essential to our health.

Sometimes we forget that, and when we say yes to everyone else, we're saying no to ourselves. Eventually, our body might say no for us in the form of an

autoimmune flare. And none of us want that. So in today's mindset minisode, I'm going to share

some beginner tips for saying no that have

helped me, along with a technique that can help you identify your priorities so that you say yes

to what matters most and say no to the things that keep you from those priorities.

So first, let's start with the tips.

Beware of the words should appearing in your mind

when someone makes a request.

I should do something is usually code for I don't want to.

This has been incredibly helpful for me to realize.

Now when I think the phrase, I should, I realize I'm feeling obligated.

For the things we truly enjoy, there is no should involved.

We want to say yes, and the joyful yeses are the best ones.

Now, you might still choose to say yes to an obligation, but consider it carefully

and only do so when it aligns with your values. So another tip is to check in with your body. So just

like the word should is a red flag, there are physical red flags as well. When someone asks you to do something, pay attention

to how your body responds. Do you feel excited or are you filled with dread? Do you feel a burst of

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