Mind Your Boundaries, Stop People Pleasing, and Find Joy in Saying No with Natalie Lue • 289
Mind Love™ • Consciousness, Spirituality, and Science for Awakening
Melissa Monte | Conscious Coach
4.9 • 906 Ratings
🗓️ 28 March 2023
⏱️ 77 minutes
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Summary
We will learn:
- The difference between wanting to do things for others and people-pleasing.
- The 5 types of people pleasing and how to identify which type you fall into.
- 6 steps for finding joy in saying no.
We all have a desire for approval and validation. We all want to fit in and belong, but the problem is, if we're so focused on pleasing other people, we can lose touch with ourselves.
So, as always, the first step is awareness. How do we identify our people-pleasing behaviors so we can start living from the inside out, instead of the other way around?
That's what we're talking about today.
Our guest is Natalie Lue. She is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest-running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim (www.baggagereclaim.com), and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. She helps people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their lives happily and authentically. She's also the author of “The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want.”
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Mind Love, episode 289. |
| 0:03.0 | Today's episode is all about how to mind your boundaries, stop people pleasing, and find joy in saying no. |
| 0:10.0 | When you say no, you're saying yes to something else. When you say yes, you're saying yes to something else when you say yes you're saying no to something else so |
| 0:16.7 | when you turn around and you say yes to something that you really don't need to or in fact that you shouldn't be saying yes to you're saying no to yourself. |
| 0:26.3 | If you run around indiscriminately saying yes or you just have a habit of saying yes for the wrong reasons. |
| 0:34.2 | Even when you want to do something, |
| 0:36.8 | you're still gonna feel funny about it |
| 0:38.6 | because your body doesn't know the difference. |
| 0:40.8 | Because you have associated saying yes and no with anxiety and obligation and |
| 0:49.7 | feeling trapped and all sorts of other uncomfortable things. |
| 0:52.8 | Whereas if you can get into a more authentic place |
| 0:56.5 | with your yeses and knows that respects you, |
| 0:58.9 | then you're opening yourself up to an entirely different experience. Turn up your frequency with mind love. |
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| 1:12.0 | It's time to give your mind a little love with your host, |
| 1:15.8 | Melissa Monte. |
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