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What's up y'all? Welcome to Straight White American Jesus.

This is our series mild at heart on masculinity, love and sex.

After purity culture, I'm Brad O'Nishi.

Today is our third installment and I want to pick up where we left off last week

and talking about the harmful visions of masculinity and sexuality that are propagated in purity culture.

What I talked about last week is that there's a vision in terms of masculinity of men in evangelicalism

and this filters into purity culture specifically.

Men as sexual savages and people who are domineering assertive, aggressive, borderline violent.

When it comes to sexuality, this means they have an insatiable sexual appetite that is different from women.

We talked about how this is a form of rape culture because it teaches that men in some sense

are beings who cannot control their sexual urges and so if they're in a relationship, especially a marital relationship,

their approach to sex is going to be one of expecting it when they want it and if they don't want it,

I'm sorry if they're refused or if their partner is reluctant, then you can see built into this culture

a kind of teaching that says, well, I'm going to do what I want anyway because that's who I am.

That's what I am as a sexual barbarian.

We also talked about the sort of paradox of why or how at least purity culture teaches that men are on one hand

these sexual savages and uncontrollable lost boys and then also should be the leaders of church and society

and politically and so on and that just doesn't make sense. It seems to be a naked power grab.

What I want to talk about today is how purity culture teaches men to hate themselves twice

and how like everything we're talking about in this series, this also hurts women but let's just take it from the kind of perspective of the man

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