Michelle Chalfant on Are You Living From Your Adult Chair? |EP 638

Passion Struck with John R. Miles

John R. Miles

Reinventing Yourself, Behavior Change For Good, Human Behavior Change, Self Mastery, Live Like You Matter, Emotional Resilience, Why You Matter, Purpose, Mental Fitness, The Power Of Mattering, Why Mattering Matters, Science Of Mattering, The Need To Matter, Science Of Human Flourishing, Science Of Wellbeing, The Mattering Effect, How To Be Successful, Veterans, Bio Hacking, Personal Growth, Tiny Habits, Health, Mattering, Knowing Yourself, Self Awareness, Spiritual Health, Success Strategies, Life Span, Passion, Self-improvement, Self Help, Self Improvement Podcast, Relationship Health, Life Lessons, Metabolism, John R. Miles, How We Learn, Health Habits, Fitness, Mindfulness, Grit, Education, Passion Struck Life, Cancer Survivor, Peak Performance, Personal Mastery, Power Of Intentions, Live Intentionally, Behavior Change, Health & Fitness, How To Be Unstoppable, Success, Meditation, Future Of Work, Brain Plasticity, Leadership, Power Of Choice, Self Limiting Beliefs, Education Podcast, Health Podcast, Passion Struck, Courage, The Power Of Letting Go, Inspirational, Naturopath, Self Development, Entrepreneurship, Be Intentional, Habit Formation, Alternative Medicine, Personal Relationships, Health Span, Neuroscience, Military, Intentional Living, Life Coaching, Future Self, Passion Struck Podcast, Behavior Science, Mental Health, Eft Tapping, Self Realization, Alternative Health, Functional Medicine, Micro Choice, Human Connection, Growth Mindset, Self Love, Perseverance, Ideal Self, Spirituality, Intentionality, Happiness, Best Self, Longevity, Self Actualization, Balanced Lifestyle, Introspection, Executive Coaching, Habit Loop, Alternative Health Podcast

4.9 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 17 July 2025

⏱️ 54 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

In Episode 638 of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with Michelle Chalfant—renowned therapist, author, and creator of The Adult Chair model—to explore one of the most transformational frameworks for emotional and relational healing.

At the heart of Michelle’s approach is a deceptively simple but powerful idea: we all live from one of three “chairs”—the Child, the Adolescent, or the Adult. Most of us, without realizing it, are stuck reacting to life from our younger, wounded selves. The result? Triggers. Overreactions. People-pleasing. Shame. Emotional reactivity. Disconnection.

Visit this link for the full show notes.

Go Deeper: The Ignited Life

If this episode stirred something in you, The Ignited Life is where the transformation continues. Each week, I share behind-the-scenes insights, science-backed tools, and personal reflections to help you turn intention into action.

Subscribe🔗 and get the companion resources delivered straight to your inbox.

Catch more of Michelle Chalfant: https://theadultchair.com/

If you liked the show, please leave us a review—it only takes a moment and helps us reach more people! Don’t forget to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally.

How to Connect with John:

Connect with John on Twitter at @John_RMiles
Follow him on Instagram at @John_R_Miles
Subscribe to our main YouTube Channel and to our YouTube Clips Channel
For more insights and resources, visit John’s website

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Coming up next on Passion Struck.
0:02.2	Most humans have an emotion, call it sadness, overwhelm, comparison, whatever it is.
0:07.5	And then we build a story around why we're having that emotion or we want to give it meaning.
0:14.1	And to truly feel an emotion is just to let it flow through you.
0:17.6	When I have worked with people over 20-some years of doing this work, and I teach
0:22.6	people how to feel their emotions, that's when anxiety starts to shift. Depression starts to
0:29.0	shift. We need to learn how to get comfortable in the uncomfortableness of some of these
0:34.1	emotions that we're actually feeling. We're not great at that. We are great at
0:38.3	numbing out, but we're not great at feeling our emotions. And we need to get better at it because
0:42.9	it's actually our superpower. It's very healing to feel our emotions. Welcome to Passionstruck.
0:48.2	Hi, I'm your host, John R. Miles. And on the show, we decipher the secrets, tips, and guidance
0:54.0	of the world's most inspiring people
0:56.2	and turned their wisdom into practical advice for you and those around you.
1:01.2	Our mission is to help you unlock the power of intentionality so that you can become the best version of yourself.
1:08.6	If you're new to the show, I offer advice and answer listener
1:12.2	questions on Fridays. We have long-form interviews the rest of the week with guests
1:17.0	ranging from astronauts to authors, CEOs, creators, innovators, scientists, military leaders,
1:24.5	visionaries, and athletes. Now, let's go out there and become passion struck.
1:29.7	Welcome to episode 638.
1:32.3	I'm your host, John Miles, and whether you're back for more.
1:36.0	We're joining us for the first time.
1:38.1	I am so glad you're here.
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from John R. Miles, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of John R. Miles and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.