Are you struggling to raise a strong-willed child who pushes your buttons,

derail family outings, melts down, doesn't care about consequences?

Are you struggling in your marriage to get on the same page?

Well, good, that means you're normal

because you should be struggling,

because this is hard work,

because the purpose of relationships

is not happiness, it is transformation.

It changes who you are.

And look, I made so many mistakes as a younger man,

and I don't want you to make the same ones.

Now, this is a hard but necessary and honest and concise message

for husbands and wives.

I'm going to be blunt to the point,

and I say all of this with humility,

knowing I made all of these mistakes.

I had a career military father who used the fear

and intimidation approach to enforce good outward behavior,

but at the expense of actually having a relationship

with his four sons and in the end we didn't honestly respect my dad we just

feared him and so I'm going to talk about that.

Just so you know, this is Kirk Martin,

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