Melanie Sykes on her autism diagnosis at 51 and being her own person

The Shift with Sam Baker

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Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Personal Journals

4.8 • 525 Ratings

🗓️ 2 May 2023

⏱️ 52 minutes

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How does it feel to walk into a room and know that everyone already thinks they know all there is to know about you. That’s the position today’s guest, Melanie Sykes has found herself in repeatedly over the last thirty years. After starting out modelling and then moving into TV and radio presenting, Melanie decided she’d well and truly had enough in her 40s, and stepped back from broadcasting to reclaim her own narrative. She launched her magazine Frank in 2016 and has now followed that up with a book, Illuminated: Autism and all the things I’ve left unsaid. In it she discusses the good, the bad and the often ugly of a life lived under the camera’s glare, and of being, as she puts it, "too young and too famous for comfort." I met Melanie in a studio in North London to talk about discovering her creativity in her 40s, the relief of being diagnosed with autism and ADHD at 51 and what she learnt from her subsequent breakdown. Melanie talks candidly about the way the media has portrayed her, being sapiosexual, taking a year out from sex, why it's rare to find a man of her own age with as much energy as her and she won’t be settling any time soon. As you’ll hear, after a lifetime in the male gaze, nobody’s telling Melanie’s story but her. * You can buy all the books mentioned in this podcast at The Shift bookshop on Bookshop.org, including Illuminated: Autism and all the things I've left unsaid by Melanie Sykes and the book that inspired this podcast, The Shift: how I lost and found myself after 40 - and you can too, by me. * And if you'd like to support the work that goes into making this podcast and get a weekly newsletter plus loads more content including transcripts of the podcast, please consider joining The Shift community. Find out more at www.theshiftwithsambaker.substack.com And if you already subscribe - did you know you can buy a Gift Membership of The Shift for a friend at https://steadyhq.com/en/theshift/gift_plans • The Shift (on life after 40) with Sam Baker is created and hosted by Sam Baker and edited by Emily Sandford. If you enjoyed this podcast, please rate/review/follow as it really does help other people find us. And let me know what you think on twitter @sambaker or instagram @theothersambaker Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:34.9	Hello and welcome to The Shift, the podcast that aims to tell the no-hold about truth about being a woman post-40, created and hosted by me, writer and broadcaster, Sam Baker.
0:45.6	How does it feel to walk into a room and know that everyone already thinks they know all there is to know about you?
0:51.8	That's the position today's guest, Melanie Sykes,
0:54.8	has found herself in repeatedly over the last 30 years. After starting out modelling and then
1:01.0	moving into TV and radio presenting, Melanie decided she'd well and truly had enough in her 40s
1:08.0	and stepped back from broadcasting to reclaim her own narrative. She launched her magazine,
1:13.3	Frank, in 2016, and has now followed that up with a book, Illuminated, Autism and All the Things
1:19.1	I've Left Unsaid. In it, she discusses the good, the bad and the often ugly of a life lived under
1:24.5	the camera's glare, of being, as she puts it, too young and too famous for
1:29.4	comfort. So I know that nobody can do anything to hurt me again because I've got me. I've
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