Life taught you to criticize and ignore yourself.

As a kid, you didn't lay in front of a mirror

and criticize your face or your chubby thighs.

You literally crawled up to it and kissed yourself. If you long to feel happier, if you wish

you were content, if you wish you could stop focusing on the things that are going wrong,

you better sit up and pay attention to what I'm about to tell you because this

shit is real.

That was the voice of the best-selling author, podcast, and motivational speaker, Mel Robbins,

who joins us on today's episode of high performance,

the show that explores the stories and ideas of some of the most extraordinary people in the world.

I'm Jaya Comforti, and like so many of you, I just love exploring ways to be happier and to try and get the most I can from life.

And I'm Damien Hughes. I've spent my lifetime immersed in the world of high performance and trying to understand it. I've worked with professional sports

teams all over the world including the Scotland Rugby Union team as well as the England

National Football team, as well as with leading business people to help them understand how they can

create cultures that get the best out of themselves and others. Now Mel is a real

global start in the self-help world she's the pioneer of the five second rule which suggests

that when you want to take action, just count down from five, then do it.

And though this might seem simple, the technique is rooted in science and is actually one of so

many effective methods that Mel shares with the world.

I mean I really enjoy this conversation with I've had. There's a great bit that Jake's laughing.

I'm laughing already because listen out for it when I confess to Mel that I've got a little

bit of cynicism about one of her ideas and she hits back straight away with what go

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