Marriage: The Raw and Real Story with Matt Fray
The Dad Edge Podcast
Larry Hagner
4.8 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 21 November 2022
⏱️ 84 minutes
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Summary
The success of our marriage depends on several different factors, but most importantly, we simply need to come to terms with the fact that we can't just wing the most important relationship of our life. We have to be intentional about learning skills like connection, communication, and creating a deep level of intimacy.
Unfortunately, we don't learn these things growing up and our relationships truly suffer for it. Today, my guest gets raw and real on how his marriage suddenly came to an end, the clues that he saw in hindsight and what he could have done to save his marriage.
Matthew Fray is a relationship coach, blogger, and author of This is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships.
His marriage ended in 2013. It involved a lot of sobbing, self-loathing, and feeling sorry for myself. A drunken phone call with a phone-a-therapist prompted him to "journal his feelings," only instead of writing in a private journal like an adult, he drank more alcohol and published it to the internet.
He found new life and purpose blogging about the end of my marriage, discussing relationships with others, and self-reflecting on how his own beliefs and actions contributed to his family's demise. A bunch of people said it looked, sounded, and felt just like their marriage, and they all had a holy shit moment together, realizing collectively that their relationship conflict and trust-erosion patterns are all pretty much the same.
That journey blossomed into a new career as a relationship coach, and then, an opportunity to write a book. He's the divorced guy who got a tiny bit famous for leaving dishes by the sink. But it turns out it was never really about the dishes.
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| 0:00.0 | The success of our marriage depends on several different factors, but most importantly, |
| 0:03.8 | we simply need to come to terms with the fact that we can't just wing the most important |
| 0:08.4 | relationship of our life. We have to be intentional about learning skills like connection, |
| 0:12.9 | communication, and creating a deep level of intimacy. Unfortunately, we don't learn these things |
| 0:17.6 | growing up and our relationships truly suffer for it. Today, my guest gets raw and real on how his |
| 0:24.0 | marriage suddenly came to an end, the clues that he saw on hindsight and what he could have done |
| 0:29.3 | to save his marriage. Welcome to the Dad Edge podcast. The Dad Edge movement creates leaders |
| 0:37.2 | of men, leaders of families, and leaders of communities. We will not only impact this generation |
| 0:43.3 | of fathers, but the next generation as well. The kids we are raising will have better chances |
| 0:48.8 | and odds stacked in their favor because of the amazing example that their fathers emulated |
| 0:53.3 | for them. We are here to change the world. We are here to change relationships. We are here |
| 1:00.0 | to positively disrupt this generation of fathers so no man goes to their grave with regrets. |
| 1:06.0 | We disrupt the drift of busyness and replace it with razor-focused intention, |
| 1:10.9 | passion, purpose, and direction. We are the Dad Edge and we're here to change the game. |
| 1:23.6 | What's up, gentlemen? Welcome to the Dad Edge podcast. I'm Larry Hagner. Your host and |
| 1:37.0 | founder of this podcast show and movement. Today, my guest is very real, very raw and unapologetically |
| 1:44.8 | authentic. He's a writer, he's a relationship coach, and he is the best-selling author of the book. |
| 1:50.4 | This is how your marriage ends a hopeful approach to saving relationships. My guest today, |
| 1:55.9 | guys, is Matthew Frye. You've probably heard of him. You've probably heard him on other podcasts. |
| 2:02.1 | His message is amazing to say the least. He got divorced in 2013 and he literally thought |
| 2:10.0 | he was going to die. I know that sounds a bit dramatic, but it's true. Those are his words. |
| 2:14.8 | He struggled with normal things after his divorce like breathing. The way he felt every day of his |
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