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Marriage Lessons from Divorce Court - James Sexton - #1059

Modern Wisdom

Chris Williamson

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.65.9K Ratings

🗓️ 14 February 2026

⏱️ 119 minutes

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Summary

James Sexton is a New York-based divorce attorney and author, known for his expertise in family law and insights on marriage and divorce. What does it actually take to avoid divorce? In a world where most marriages don’t last, it’s easy to assume you’ll be the exception, until reality hits. So how do you prepare for a great marriage… and, if things don’t work out, make sure you’re equipped to handle a clean separation? Expect to learn what kind of marriages athletes and actors mostly have, the most difficult profession to navigate divorce with, the worst marriage advice to give someone, how prenups actually work, how to set your relationships up for success at the start, how to argue well as a couple, how to know when it's time to quit and much more… Timestamps: (0:00) Why Pro Athletes Make the Worst Divorce Clients (8:45) The Most Misunderstood Truths of Prenups (16:46) Do You Actually Need a Prenup? (25:43) Why Avoiding Hard Conversations Ruins Relationships (38:39) What Healthy Disagreement Looks Like (47:51) How to Set a Relationship Up for Success (53:55) Will Men Do Anything For Sex? (01:00:00) How to Help Your Partner Level Up (01:17:46) The Biggest Sign It’s Time to Leave a Relationship (01:31:08) How Children Shape Your Relationship Decisions (01:40:13) The Right (and Wrong) Way to Get Over Someone (01:51:56) Why Real Love Goes Deeper Than Appearances (01:56:31) Where to Find James Sponsors: Get my free Valentine’s Review with 75 life-changing questions to ask your partner: ⁠⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/valentines See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠ Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom New pricing since recording: Function is now just $365, plus get $25 off at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://shopify.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/books⁠ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: ⁠https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom⁠ Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberm - Get In Touch: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast⁠ Email: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/contact⁠ - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

It's Valentine's Day.

0:01.5

I mean, listen, this is a big day.

0:03.2

People get all hopped up and make bad choices.

0:05.1

It's technically, it's like the best holiday for my profession because... The biggest influx of future class. Yeah, there's just a level of confidence out there today. You know what I mean? Like, everybody out there is just like hyper-confident. There's a lot of proposals happen on Valentine's Day. And the romantic in me kind of is like, oh, this is lovely.

0:21.5

And then the professional of me is like, statistically to likelihood you're going to cross paths with me. It's pretty good. For the people that are listening, if you haven't got your beloved a Valentine's gift yet and you're shitting yourself and you think, oh, crap, I haven't done anything. Or if you just want to connect more deeply with your partner or work out if you should leave them,

0:40.3

I've put together a list of 50 of the Internet's most viral questions to connect more deeply with your partner, some of the more evidence-based, some of the most stuff that I've come up with, and then 25 to work out whether or not it's time to leave. and you can get that at chriswillx.com slash valentines.

0:53.5

That's chriswillex.com slash valentines.

0:56.1

We were just talking about famous people. And you can get that at chriswillx.com slash valentines. That's chriswillex.com slash valentines.

0:56.1

We were just talking about famous people.

0:59.3

What do you see in the marriages and divorces of professional athletes?

1:04.4

Well, professional athletes are a very particular breed

1:06.7

because professional athletes have had a monastic discipline,

1:09.7

most of them, to a very specific task.

1:12.5

And so they have going for them in the context of relationship, A, that they are used to putting

1:20.6

all of their focus into one thing, right? How I catch and throw a football, how to shoot a three,

1:25.1

whatever it might be. And so that becomes a useful

1:29.0

skill in marriage because in marriage, like that one-pointedness can also be very useful,

1:33.3

and it keeps you from being distracted by all the little shiny objects that happen. So that's helpful.

1:39.6

It depends on the type of athlete, because I will tell you, like, NFL players, they get their

1:45.0

contracts early.

1:46.0

They usually have a girlfriend who they were with when they were kind of on the come-up,

1:51.0

and then they get giant contracts very early on because they have such short careers.

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