Marriage is Not a Competition
Focus on the Family Marriage Podcast
Focus on the Family
4.5 • 1.9K Ratings
🗓️ 6 May 2021
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
When you and your spouse do life as a team, it's amazing what you can accomplish together. But if you compete against each other, things will go terribly wrong. John, Greg and Erin give some insights on how you and your spouse can work together in spite of your differences.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey Jim Daley here. If you like the focus on the family broadcast and haven't |
| 0:04.7 | grown tired of this voice just yet, you'll love my ReFocus podcast. On ReFocus I |
| 0:10.2 | take a deeper dive with a respected thinker on different aspects of culture. I |
| 0:14.4 | ask those hard questions that maybe they don't get that often and I don't |
| 0:18.8 | shy away from challenging topics to help you share God's grace, truth, and love |
| 0:23.6 | with others. So listen to ReFocus with Jim Daley on your favorite streaming app |
| 0:28.2 | today. Thank you for downloading the focus on the family marriage podcast. You |
| 0:35.6 | can find more relationship insights at focusonthefamily.com slash marriage |
| 0:41.1 | podcast. One of the best analogies I've heard in a while about marriage is that |
| 0:46.5 | it's like playing a sport where you and your spouse are on the same team but |
| 0:50.4 | sometimes it feels like you're on opposite teams playing against each other. |
| 0:54.6 | I'm John Fuller joined by Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife Erin and along the way |
| 1:00.6 | Erin, what did you think as I said that about playing against each other or |
| 1:05.4 | playing on the same team? Typically I would say most couples that come in for |
| 1:09.6 | counseling are playing on opposite sides of the court. They're against each |
| 1:13.3 | other and they're adversarial. They don't even know it because they many of |
| 1:17.2 | them have never thought about oh we we are on the same team and so often what |
| 1:21.5 | I'll see is you know high conflict. They're critical. They're disconnected. |
| 1:26.1 | There's just this back and forth. This tug of war, this emotional tug of war that |
| 1:30.6 | goes back and forth but nothing ever gets solved and they definitely don't get |
| 1:35.1 | what they want. Most want to be connected. And it's so hard because we all are |
| 1:39.6 | born with a very clear sense of I want what I want. I mean we're all |
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