Marriage as a Path to Healing & Growth | Dan Allender (EP22)
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Diane Boden
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🗓️ 4 April 2025
⏱️ 37 minutes
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Summary
This podcast is part of the Clear Intentions series of the show.
Note: I have listeners of all faith backgrounds that listen to the podcast. This episode is coming from a christian perspective so if that’s something that doesn’t fit what you’re looking for, check out the other episode that dropped this week or join me back here next Tuesday for a conversation that you don’t want to miss!
Every relationship has its highs and lows, but we often don't know what to do with our "lows," or how we ended up there. In today’s conversation, I sit down with therapist and author Dan Allender to discuss his new book, Deep-Rooted Marriage. He shares how deeper intimacy can be a source of healing and joy. More often than not, the hidden forces fueling conflict and disconnection stem from the unresolved stories of our past. But if we’re willing to examine them with honesty and courage, we can begin to rewrite a new, more hopeful story for the future.
Links Discussed in This Episode |
- Podcast Episode: Diary of a CEO with Paul Brunson
- Connect with Dan:
- Website
- Book: The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight
About Dan|
Dr. Dan Allender is a pioneer of a unique and innovative approach to trauma and abuse therapy. He earned a master of divinity from Westminster Theological Seminary, followed by a Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Michigan State University. Dan served on the faculty of the Biblical Counseling Department at Grace Theological Seminary from 1983 to 1989 and at Colorado Christian University from 1989 to 1997. In 1997, Dan and a cadre of others founded the Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, where he served as president from 2002 to 2009. In 2011, he established The Allender Center with the mission of fostering healing and equipping leaders and mental health professionals with the courage to confront others' stories of harm. Dan has authored or co-authored over two dozen books and continues to serve as a professor of counseling psychology at the Seattle School.
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| 1:09.1 | have listeners of all faith backgrounds that listen to this podcast. |
| 1:12.7 | Today's episode is coming from a Christian perspective. |
| 1:14.9 | So if that's something that doesn't fit what you're looking for, check out one of the other episodes that dropped this week. |
| 1:19.9 | Or join me back here next week for conversations that you don't want to miss. |
| 1:24.6 | Relationships not only expose us, but invite us to a life, to a remarkable life. If there's not mutuality, then in some sense it becomes a power dynamic. I've never had a taste of what I believe heaven will hold for me like I have had in a relationship with my wife, Becky. And I'd also |
| 1:47.1 | say I've never had a taste of hell like being married to her. But I would say as a therapist, |
| 1:54.2 | most people have certain realms where they know if they go there, things are going to get hot or cold or not pleasant. |
| 2:05.1 | Marriage always begins with a death. |
| 2:08.2 | And if you're not willing to die, and again, this is one that is an ongoing death, then you can't |
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