A lot of people say about losing confidence when you have a baby.

And I don't know why that is.

I don't know what it is that I definitely lost confidence.

From Seamwork Magazine, I'm Sarah Mitnick and this is Seamwork Radio, where we tell stories about designing, making, and wearing our own clothing.

One of the things I've heard a lot of women say about making your own clothes is how much it teaches you about yourself.

It gives you the space to really focus on what you like and what you really don't instead of just kind of going with the flow.

Sometimes not paying attention to that can have worse consequences than we think.

Charlotte Wensley, who also goes by Charlie, has discovered that in her own life.

Charlie's accomplished a lot.

She's had a successful career in London.

She has two children she adores.

She's traveled and lived in different countries.

But for a long time, there was something off in Charlie's world.

She spent a lot of time focusing on becoming a successful career woman, the person she thought

she was supposed to be, even though it wasn't really making her happy. But when she had kids,

she felt that identity start to slip away, and Charlie had to rediscover who she really was.

Charlie started her career as a secretary at a London architecture firm.

She says that job set up the expectation that she should just do as she was told.

Working in an architectural practice is a very male-dominated environment and it's quite hierarchical.

And so it was very, very much the kind of, you do as you're told, and

you do things a certain way. And if you don't, then there are consequences for that. And I suppose

that's the same in a lot of working environments, but it was, when you're young and you're, this is,

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