Hi, my name is Melissa Urban, and you're listening to Do The Thing, a

podcast where we explore what's been missing every time you've tried to make a change and make it stick.

Today I'm talking about how to make social media work for you and no I'm not talking

grow your follower count strategies I'm talking about how to create a healthy relationship

with social media and your phone in a way that feels energetically

uplifting and positive instead of draining and anxiety producing.

I'm on Instagram a lot.

I spend a few hours a day reading and responding to comments,

answering dams, commenting on other people's posts,

and crafting my own captions. It's part of my business of course, but it's also

a way for me to share my message and voice with an audience I'd normally never be able to reach.

I gain inspiration from leaders and community members alike. I continue my own personal growth work through the

posts I read here and I get to hear uplifting, moving, life-changing stories from your lives too.

However, finding a healthy relationship with Instagram hasn't always been easy.

The way I've shown up, engaged, and used these tools have evolved a lot over

the last five years. I used to spend hours mindlessly scrolling at Imagecraft, so you only ever saw the best version of me and I relentlessly

compared my real life to other people's highlights. As you might imagine it

didn't leave me fulfilled, happy, or self-confident.

If anything, it only reinforced my sense of insecurity

and always left me feeling lacking in something,

success, looks, money, or worth.

Thanks to tons of therapy, Byron Katie's work,

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