Maintaining Trust After Rebuilding It

Fierce Marriage

Ryan and Selena Frederick

Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

4.8 • 4.2K Ratings

🗓️ 25 May 2021

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Over the past few weeks we've discussed what biblical trust looks like, what to do in the wake of broken trust, and how to get started on the path toward healing. Today we covered how to maintain trust in your marriage through four tangible steps: observe, inspect, assess, and maintain/repair. You'll have to listen for the details, since those words may not mean what you first think! We hope it blesses you. Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates. --- As promised in the episode, here's the list of "one-anothers" in Scripture. Enjoy! * Accept One Another (Romans 15:7) * Agree with One Another (1 Corinthians 1:10) * Be Devoted to One Another (Romans 12:10) * Be Humble Toward One Another (1 Peter 5:5) * Be Kind and Compassionate to One Another (Ephesians 4:32) * Be Patient with One Another (Ephesians 4:2) * Build Up One Another (1 Thessalonians 5:11) * Confess to One Another (James 5:16) * Don’t Grumble Against One Another (James 5:9) * Don’t Provoke One Another (Galatians 5:26) * Do Not Slander One Another (James 4:11) * Encourage One Another Daily (Hebrews 13:3) * Equal Concern for One Another (1 Corinthians 12:25-27) * Fellowship with One Another (1 John 1:7) * Forgive One Another (Ephesians 4:32) * Greet One Another (Romans 16:16) * Honor One Another (Romans 5:10) * Instruct One Another (Romans 15:14) * Live in Harmony with One Another (Romans 12:16) * Live in Peace with One Another (1 Thessalonians 5:13) * Love One Another (John 13:34) * Love One Another Deeply (1 Peter 1:22) * Offer Hospitality to One Another (1 Peter 4:9) * Pray for One Another (James 5:16) * Serve One Another (Galatians 5:13) * Spur One Another On (Hebrews 10:24) * Stop Judging One Another (Romans 13:14) * Submit to One Another (Ephesians 5:21)

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0:00.0	If you've experienced a breach in trust or some sort of betrayal in marriage or just in your life in any sort of friendship or relationship,
0:07.0	you're not naturally going to gravitate toward trusting your spouse. Am I wrong in saying that? What do you think?
0:14.0	I don't know, because I think sometimes I want to trust you. I want that. I think we do desire to trust our spouses.
0:24.0	We marry them thinking that I'm going to be able to trust you on so many levels. And so when the trust is broken,
0:30.0	I think the hardest part is learning how to trust again and being able to say, I can put my foot on this bridge of trusting you again.
0:40.0	And I have to, I might close my eyes and I might be gripping on, hoping it doesn't break, because I don't know.
0:46.0	But you want to trust it. You want to get to that other side of you anyway.
0:49.0	Well, that's why I'm in a process. So by God's grace, we've not had this sort of catastrophic failure or betrayal or breach of trust in our own relationship.
0:59.0	So I don't want to project that on to you.
1:01.0	No, but I think even in the day to day, can I trust you to hear me and respect me and leave me in a way when I'm in the mood to be led?
1:15.0	Yeah. Can I trust that? And I want to trust you.
1:20.0	And I think I do think that there's part of us that wants to trust our spouse. And when it's breached and broken, the hardest part is getting back to that trust.
1:29.0	Yeah.
1:30.0	Yeah, I think it's, I don't know if it's a natural gravitation. I don't, I can't call it that. I think I would gravitate more towards.
1:36.0	I just wish we could go back to where we were to where I trusted you. And this wasn't broken.
1:40.0	All right. So today, that's what we're talking about. If you're not, if you're not naturally inclined to maintaining trust and drifting toward more deeper, stronger trust in your relationship, then it takes active maintenance.
1:51.0	And maintenance is a process. And it, it sounds kind of dry when you say it like that, but in a relationship, it just means being really, really intentional about building and maintaining your trust.
2:01.0	So we're tackling that topic today. We'll see you on the other side.
2:04.0	Welcome to the fierce marriage podcast where we believe that marriage takes a fierce tenacity that never gives up and refuses to give in.
2:10.0	Here we'll share openly and honestly about all things marriage, sex, communication, finance, priorities, purpose, and everything in between.
2:18.0	And Lazio, last letter and the farewell episode.
2:37.0	You didn't expect paperwork from my answer there, were you?
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