really good to have you here. So have you ever been asked to

dog sit or or cat sit for a friend while they are away or to to plant sit even that to water your

friend's plants? Are you the person who's been given the spare key to your neighbor's apartment in

case of emergency? I feel like maybe this was different in different eras and for different

generations but I feel like in our in our lives in our time there aren't that many formal signs

in life there aren't that many formal bits of feedback that can tell you if you're doing okay

things that can tell you whether the people who know you don't just like you they trust you they

think you are an honorable person. I mean there are a few formal things like that you know you can

be like voted captain of a team in school sports or something you can be chosen by your peers

for some kind of responsibility maybe you get asked to be on the select board in your town or

you get asked to be on the bargaining unit at your job or something like that and there are there

are some sort of formal things that come across but more often it's these not formal small personal

things being asked by your neighbor your friend to dog sit being entrusted with that being given

that spare key by your neighbor now maybe it dawns on you that as your family members are making

decisions about where they're going to live you find that members of your family are moving

to be closer to where you live and that's because they think you're solid that you can be counted on

can also be the really humbling things the more serious stuff like somebody asking you to be their

child's godparent somebody asking you to be the executor of their will there are things like

this in life large things and small things but I think of as as midlife checkups signs of whether

in the eyes of your peers and your loved ones you're seeing as somebody who's doing okay doing

things right honorable trustworthy you can be counted on if you don't have anything like that

in your life I hope you someday do I hope I hope every one of us someday is listed as the

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