Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you. We're going to talk about

some relational, relational stuff. And as always, I wanted to be applicable to all the different

relationships in our lives. Parent child, friend to friend. I'm going to talk about it, though,

through the entry point of a primary relationship. And I always acknowledge the same skills are the same skills and you know I do couples

in sex therapy often as a specialty and so that's why that's where my mind will go traditionally

first but like I said single married poly thrupled open whatever's going on in your life

this might apply to a primary partnership or all's going on in your life this might apply to a primary

partnership or all the other relationships in your life let's drop in so one of the

concepts that I teach the couples that are patients in my private practice and one of

the guideposts is that we want to become experts on the important and primary people in our lives.

Now, we talk about triggers.

We've talked about on the show before.

We'll talk about it again.

Triggers show us where our work is.

People misunderstand triggers to imply that whoever

triggered us oh it's about them they shouldn't have triggered us so the work is theirs don't do that

well no foremost and primarily if triggered that is for us to learn about ourselves and where

our work is it shows us where some healings required.

So when we're triggered, that is a mirror being held up so we can see ourselves and learn about

ourselves. So that's the first foundational point that needs to be made before I move on to the

wider point. So other people are not responsible for our behavior.

Other people are not responsible for our reactions. We are. And that's why often, and very

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