What do you tell people when they ask you for marital advice? What do you tell them?

Marital? Yes.

Don't mess it up.

What do you tell them? What advice do you give?

See, two people come together.

Initially, when you come together, you have a need for the other person, the other person has a need for you.

The need is physical, psychological,

emotional, maybe economic, maybe social, so many aspects. When you come together, you come

because you need it. But after some time, you think only that person needs it. This is the problem.

You always remember, I have made this relationship for my fulfilling my needs.

Then you will approach it with little humility.

But if you think I'm fulfilling that person's needs, then you will do things which are unfortunate and unpleasant to each other.

I think marriage is a good thing like you think men should experience marriage or to each his own?

See, if you do not know

how to allow another person to walk all over you a little bit,

you may be in your own illusion of who you are. So marriage is that place where

it need not necessarily be marriage. It could be even your own choice of how you do things.

But you are a loving another person means some part of you should go. See, this is why the English term, falling in love is a good term.

You don't rise in love, you don't climb in love, you don't fly in love, you fall in love.

Something of you must fall.

You're willing to take a part of you and throw it away so that the other person is accommodated.

Which is a very good thing, because this is what yoga means.

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