I'm Gretchen Rubin and this is a little happier.

I created a personality framework called the Four Attendancies and I've spoken about it

a lot on the happier podcast.

If you want to find out if you're a folder, questioner, a bliger or rubble, you can take

the free quick quiz at quiz.gretchenrubin.com.

For this little story, it's enough to know that obligers are people who readily meet

outer expectations but they struggle to meet inner expectations.

They keep their promises to other people but they often have trouble keeping their promises

to themselves.

Sometimes when outer expectations become too heavy, an obliger can fall into a bliger

rebellion, which is when an obliger meets meets meets meets expectations and then suddenly

that obliger snaps and says, this I will not do.

Sometimes it's small and funny.

Sometimes it's huge and dramatic.

Sometimes it's helpful.

Sometimes it's destructive in the way it blows up a situation.

Sometimes it's directed at other people like, I'm not going to answer your emails for

two weeks or I'm quitting this job where you exploit me.

And sometimes it's turned toward the self.

With ideas like, what the boss I have, you think I can exercise?

No way.

And sometimes a bliger rebellion can take the form of what seems like indulgent but in a

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