Dr. Tallbenshahr at Harvard University calls the arrival fallacy.

And basically the arrival fallacy is this belief that you're going to hit this moment

where you're going to have accumulated enough success, enough wealth, you know, enough status,

where finally this inner void that I think so many of us are trying to fill disappears, right?

You reach this moment of fulfillment.

And one of the things that I was sort of realizing, even as I was out there studying,

you know, hundreds of people who were at the top of their game, as cliches it might sound, I couldn't

necessarily correlate their success to, you know, what we might call happiness or joy.

I mean, they were doing great things, but I didn't consider them much happier than they

were before.

And I was experiencing that myself.

Like, I was constantly saying, like, if I could just get that next book or the next review or the next,

you know, job, whatever it was, I would be happier.

And I was finding in every case, like, I might be hitting goals.

Sometimes I was, sometimes I wasn't, but even when I was hitting them, the feeling that I was getting was very, very temporary.

I would always sort of return back to a baseline.

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