If the worst thing happened to you, if things suddenly came undone, if things went terribly wrong,

what's your worst fear? What's the worst thing that could happen to you?

And when people answer that question, they come up with this, what I call this very deep thread

of this core language. For example, the answer that could be, I'll be all alone,

there'll be no one there, or I'll be betrayed, or I'll be powerless, or I'll be helpless,

or I'll be annihilated, or I'll be destroyed. That type of language comes from early trauma

with attachment. So I've discovered, Srini, there's two types of this core language.

There's attachment language that comes from either our attachment with our mom,

her attachment with her mom, or our dad's attachment with his mom. And I call that

early trauma core sentences, early attachment core sentences.

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Mark, welcome to the unmistakable creative. Thanks so much for taking the time to join us.

Thank you for having me, Srini.

Yeah, it is my pleasure to have you here. So I came across your book. It didn't start with you how

inherited family trauma shapes who we are and how to end the cycle at the recommendation of a girl

that I wanted to date with. And I've read tons and tons of self-help books trying to solve many

of my problems. And this was one of the few that I really honestly, I came out of it and thought,

wow, I have never gotten so much clarity from a book. But before we get into all of that, I want

to start asking what I think is a very relevant question given the subject matter of your work. And

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