What you have to invest in is there's nothing more magnificent, sexy, amazing, worthwhile, worth all the sacrifices, everything than a shared experience. So the shared experience is what the game of love is about. It's about the ups and downs. It's about the time where the person has the flu, terrible diarrhea, where you're laughing at a comedian until snott shoots out of your face, or you know, it's like, it's all the amazing things and all of the horrible things, it's being supported, it's providing support, it's laughing, it's crying, it's like an amazing, sexy night, a night where it just didn't go off and you don't have a fight in the middle. It's like, all of that shit is what makes up life and constantly coming back and getting reconnected, reconnected, reconnected. And it's like, man, over time, you have something that just can't be replaced. It's up everybody. Welcome to another episode of Relationship Theory. I'm here with the love of my life, Lisa Billeu, and we are gonna be talking about three things

that we found shocking about being in a long-term relationship. These are the things that if you don't get right, your relationship is in trouble, my friends. So here we go. We're each gonna throw, well, I'm gonna throw one out, you're gonna throw two. Yeah, we haven't told each other yet. No, we have not.

What we found surprising in our relationship,

this is even super exciting,

and for people that may not know,

we've been together for 20 years,

so it's even super exciting and for people that may not know we've been together for 20 years

So it's to give context

Yes, if you don't have what I'm about to say on your list I'm gonna be mortified so these better overlap to be honest with me. I'm so curious. You ready? All right, yeah, you're gonna know the truth of this.

I'm the first one, right?

Oh, you wanna go first?

Yeah.

All right, do it.

You got it.

All right, so the truth of this. On the first one, right? You wanna go first? Yeah. Alright, do it. You got it.

Alright, so the importance of being selfish. Word. I... You're gonna have to tell people what you mean though. They're gonna be very... I will, so I never thought the importance of being selfish would be one of the most fundamental things that you must have in a relationship. I always thought it was the other way around.

Give everything.

Do you think being selfish is more important?

Or is it just surprising that selfish is a part of the equation? Ooh, I think it is absolutely the most fundamental thing that you need to do. So it's more important to you. Then what? Then the unity,

they're coming together,

the sharing of an experience alive of. Oh, interesting. Making sure the other person is attended to. If I have to be forced. Is this like a put your mask on before you put something? I know you've had it for this truth. Why would you think I hate that? I think it's a insanity. I think you're wrong about the relationship,

but I get the analogy.

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