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Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Letting Myself Feel The Pain: On-Air Counseling Session with Bianca Olthoff

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9757 Ratings

🗓️ 17 May 2022

⏱️ 49 minutes

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Summary

Over the next few weeks I’ll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok?  This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we’re really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we’re doing as Christians. Today’s session is with Bianca Olthoff. Bianca is a pastor, teacher, and church planter who has been in ministry for many years. She’s come to a point where she realized that she’s not okay — right here and right now in this season. There has been so much change in the past two years since the pandemic started, and she’s realizing that the pain of the past few years is something she needs to face. “I think that the present has been a really hard season for me…and I need to make space for the sad.” Today we talk through the hard things of the past few years, and how they’ve all compounded leaving her at a place where she has to acknowledge the hard things, feel the hard things, and grieve the hard things.  Maybe you can relate. Maybe you find yourself running, distracting, ignoring the pain — rather than dealing with it. If so, this episode is for you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking — Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Bianca on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta.  Now it’s your turn. It’s time for YOU to get real about how you’re doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let’s do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey everyone. Welcome back to the Love and Relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felita.

0:23.1

For those of you who don't know me, I'm a licensed professional counselor, an author of five books.

0:28.4

My podcast is typically a hotline style show where I tackle all your questions in candid, practical, bite-sized answers.

0:36.0

But for the next few weeks, we're shifting gears a little bit.

0:38.9

I wrote a book last year called Are You Really Okay? Getting Real About Who You Are You Are You Doing,

0:43.5

and why it matters? And I really believe it's my most important book yet. In this book,

0:50.1

I challenge you to really dig deep and honestly assess how you're doing emotionally, spiritually,

0:56.6

mentally and physically. I think it's easy for us to pretend we're doing okay until we're not.

1:02.4

It takes courage and understanding to really answer that question honestly and begin taking

1:07.5

steps to heal from the inside out. So for the one-year anniversary of Are You Really

1:12.7

Okay, we're turning the tables a little bit. I've invited some of the top Christian leaders and

1:17.4

teachers to join me on the podcast for on-air counseling sessions, where I challenge them to answer this

1:23.6

question. Are you really okay? Over the next few weeks, we're going to get an inside

1:28.4

peek into the lives of some of the most influential people in the church today and begin honestly

1:33.5

assessing how we're doing from the top down. I'm so proud and honored to be having these conversations

1:40.0

with men and women who are courageously paving the way for open and honest conversations

1:45.9

about their personal mental and emotional health.

1:49.3

So let's dig in to season two of the Are You Really Okay series?

1:59.1

Bianca, I'm so glad to have you joining me today.

2:02.3

And I have been looking forward to this session.

2:05.3

I don't know about you.

2:06.5

You and me both because all I heard was free therapy.

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