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From the New York Times and WBUR Boston, this is Modern Love.

Stories of Love, loss and redemption.

I'm your host, Megna Chakrabardi.

Dirty Talk

Some people can pull it off, but some people really can't.

When Lily White tried to talk dirty to her husband, it started out awkward and then got hilarious.

Kimberly A. Bear Gregory reads us this week's essay.

You can see her in ABC's Kevin Probably Saves the World and HBO's Vice Principles.

She reads Lily White's essay,

Let's not pretend to be who we are.

One rule of thumb for marriage would be to avoid imitating Julia Child's voice during sex.

I learned this lesson one Sunday afternoon while fooling around with my husband.

I recently had bought the book, The Fine Art of Erotic Talk by Bunny Gabriel.

And I was up to chapter 5, fantasy and role play.

Miss Gabriel writes that married men sometimes like to pretend they're having sex with someone else when they're with their wives.

Just why my husband would feel the need to do this is beyond me.

I certainly don't pretend he's Brad Pitt or anyone else for that matter.

But one must try to be open to new things.

Miss Gabriel goes on to say that costumes or wigs can help with your partner's fantasies,

but words are more effective.

As she points out, the brain is by far the most potent sex organ of all.

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