We are not our history, we are the stories we tell ourselves.

And you'll find that, you talk to your parents

about some of the things that wounded you as a child.

You know, you say, you know, mom,

when you said this to me back in the day,

or remember this situation that happened

and you are very selective memory

because we can only store so many memories from our lives.

And it's usually the ones that are super amazing

or super painful.

That tends to be what we have the capacity for, right?

And so you revisit one of those situations

and say, I remember when you told me,

blah, blah, blah, and then your parents go, what?

That's like either that barely happened

or they tell you the context of it

or they tell you what came before or came after

and reframed for you and you go, what?

I always took it as X or I just remember the Y or whatever.

And again, you're selectively choosing the pieces

of those stories that you have chosen to take on.

And they continue to be the narrative

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