Kwame Christian: Becoming Comfortable with Uncomfortable Conversations

Redefining Wealth with Patrice Washington

Patrice Washington

Education:self-improvement, Education, Self-improvement

4.9 • 1.6K Ratings

🗓️ 25 June 2020

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Have you ever wondered why so many of us struggle with having difficult conversations? Whether we go into people-pleasing mode or we check out of the conversation altogether to avoid further confrontation, many of us find these types of conversations extremely uncomfortable. According to today’s guest, Kwame Christian, conflict is always an opportunity, and it’s difficult conversations that lead us to live our best life. But is there a way we can get more comfortable having these conversations? One of Kwame’s best tips is to inject time into the situation and think through things before responding. There’s nothing that says you need to respond to someone immediately, in fact it’s in those snap responses we usually get into trouble. That’s why Kwame encourages us all to step back, think through the process and use his Compassionate Curiosity framework, where you first acknowledge your emotions, then get curious with compassion and finally use joint problem-solving to come to a solution. Kwame Christian is host of the world’s most popular negotiation podcast, Negotiate Anything, and is dedicated to empowering others through the art and science of negotiation and persuasion. And his book, Nobody Will Play With Me: Finding Confidence in Conflict, has helped countless individuals overcome the fear, anxiety and emotion often associated with difficult conversations. Join Kwame and me as we go further into conflict resolution and discuss how to best navigate and lead difficult conversations. Find Kwame here: https://americannegotiationinstitute.com/about/ This episode is brought to you by our complimentary Purpose Chasers community. Want to share your aha moments with a group of like-minded purpose chasers from all over the world? Visit iamapurposechaser.com and join NOW. Conflict Resolution Takeaways The best things in life are on the other side of difficult conversations. – Kwame Christian You can decide not to decide anything today. – Patrice Washington Positive emotions can lead us to bad decisions in the same way that anger and frustration can. – Kwame Christian When a person can leave a conversation and think differently about the situation, that’s when change is most likely going to come. – Kwame Christian Get curious with compassion. – Kwame Christian Staying in constant conflict is an opportunity to strengthen our relationships. – Kwame Christian Do you see conflict differently? Have Kwame’s examples and Compassionate Curiosity framework changed how you will show up in difficult conversations? Let us know what your biggest takeaways were in the comments below. Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions And with that, let’s dig into Kwame’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions. Define Success: “Peace.” Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less: “Peace. Peace. Peace.” One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth: Nobody Will Play with Me by Kwame Christian https://amzn.to/3fVIM2i Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl https://amzn.to/31acnRr Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”: “My name is Kwame Christian and the truth about wealth is that you have what you need already if you change your perspective.” LINKS: To advertise on the podcast: http://www.patricewashington.com/podcastads Become an Official Purpose Chaser: http://www.iamapurposechaser.com Join Patrice’s Pod Club: http://www.patricespodclub.com To check out ALL of our past guests + episodes: http://www.patricewashington.com/Listen If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast, email us at info@seekwisdomfindwealth.com. Find me in Social Media: Our podcast hashtag is #RedefiningWealth Instagram: @SeekWisdomPCW https://www.instagram.com/seekwisdompcw/ Twitter: @SeekWisdomPCW https://twitter.com/SeekWisdomPCW Facebook: @SeekWisdomPCW https://www.facebook.com/SeekWisdomPCW/ YouTube: @SeekWisdomPCW https://www.youtube.com/user/

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0:00.0	In a lot of situations the time pressure isn't real we have more time to make these
0:07.2	decisions than we think we do and so one of the things you have to ask yourself
0:10.9	is do I need to make a decision right now and oftentimes the answer is no.
0:22.0	You are listening to the Redefining Wealth Podcast with Patrice Washington.
0:26.3	In today's episode I sit down with attorney and the director of the American Negotiation
0:31.5	Institute Kwame Christian.
0:33.8	He says it's time that we all get comfortable having uncomfortable conversations.
0:38.2	Hey there, this is Patrice Washington from Patrice Washington.com where we chase
0:47.7	purpose not money. Welcome back to all my OG listeners and my brand new purpose chasers. I am so excited about this conversation
0:57.9	because there is so much going on in the world and you know it, I know it, we're triggered. In a lot of ways we are
1:08.8	being forced to engage in conversations that maybe we have never had to participate in,
1:14.3	whether that be through social media or in our own living rooms.
1:18.2	And it is getting really uncomfortable having the conversations that we are
1:25.8	participating in right now.
1:28.0	And for many of us, we'd rather shut down than continue.
1:31.9	But the truth is in order for change to take place and in order for us to actually
1:35.8	get to the points in our lives, where we may see ourselves, it's going to take having difficult
1:42.0	and uncomfortable conversations.
1:44.0	So, of course like everything else at redefining wealth it lined up perfectly that
1:50.1	Kwame was already scheduled to be on the podcast. But before we jump in, I want to make sure
1:56.8	that if you are brand new, you know that this community is a bit different than maybe some of the
2:01.7	other personal finance shows you may have
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