Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast where here you get modern, non-boring relationship

advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay in the same team

no matter of the challenge that you face. I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman. And I'm

Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. And this episode is about kids witnessing

your arguments, three keys to keep conflict healthy

and let go of the guilt.

And this topic was something we had to cover after so many of the recent conversations we've

been having with couples.

And we find that in our sessions, there are themes.

Like it'll be a few weeks of, okay, these two things

keep happening between couples. So anyway, this is a big theme we're noticing is that they will share.

And in fact, I was having a phone conversation with one of the couples today because we talk

in between our sessions as well. And the one partner was saying, I cannot let my kids see this

anymore. Like I just can't. I feel terrible about it. I feel horrible. And I know that feeling. And we've had

moments even with Sky where we're like, wow, we really know she is watching.

And even though she's, you know, almost 18 months, we know that we need to focus on how we

handle this even more than before having her. And even though she's not five years old yet,

and she doesn't totally understand, she feels it. And we know that we can

affect her nervous system. And so there's a couple of goals that we have for today's session.

We're going to give you the three keys of what to focus on so you can keep it healthy, but also

speaking to the guilt. And I wanted to start with the guilt because that is one thing that as parents, I know it can eat us away.

You know, when we know that something is affecting them, I mean, we can beat ourselves up.

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