So do you have a child who, when asked to do something, when given instructions, reflexively, almost immediately responds by saying no or asking why?

Well, of course you do, because you have strong will kids and it's irritating.

Is this just a defiant child who's purposefully being difficult or is something else going on?

That is what we're going to discuss on today's episode

of the Calm Parenting podcast. So welcome. This is Kirk Martin. Founder Celebrate Calm. You can find

us in our Mother's Day sale at Celebrate Calm.com. Two quick things. I had a mom who forwarded

it to her husband and he already got her, downloaded all of our programs for Mother's Day.

And she was like, I still have a couple of weeks left, so I'm going to ask him for more things.

I was a good job.

And then shout out to Adam, a guy who's like, hey, this isn't just about moms.

I have been working through your programs and breaking the generational patterns that I got from my dad.

Kudos to you, all the moms and dads out there who are breaking generational patterns

and learning to parent in ways that you are never parented.

Good for you, man.

That's hard work.

So here's the thing.

If you're a generally compliant rule following person by nature you are going to struggle with

your strong will child because when someone asks you to do something your first thought is well

you just do it but that's not what your strong will child thinks or does their first thought is

either an immediate no or to question why and you've've heard that, haven't you? In this podcast

episode, I want to delve into why kids ask this primarily. But here's some quick additional

insight into the immediate no. Some kids reflexively say no because they're buying time to process what you just ask them to do

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