Keep Your Upbringing or Past Relationships From Sabotaging Your Relationship Now Episode 97
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 15 September 2020
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
Ever have those times in your relationship where things are going great, and then BAM... something sabotages it. You might not have identified it as sabotage, but that's often what it is and it shows up as a pattern from your past!
Sabotaging behaviors keep you and your partner from experiencing: more love, more joy, more connection, more intimacy and more fulfillment together. So yea, sabotage is no fun.
In this episode, we dive into how emotional events from either your upbringing or past relationships can/is impacting your relationship now.
But here's what's taking this to the next level….we also dive into how those past events lead to subtle forms of sabotaging behavior. Before you think, "oh, I don't do anything sabotaging," take a listen and hear some behaviors that you might not have noticed before, that could be keeping your relationship in the same place rather than growing.
This is a powerful episode for you to reflect on individually and discuss together. Plus you will get a process to identify what these patterns are, where they come from, and what to do to change them.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast where you get modern, non-boring relationship |
| 0:05.5 | advice so that you and your partner can communicate like pros, fight smarter, and handle |
| 0:11.5 | any challenge that comes your way. |
| 0:13.8 | I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:15.5 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:18.7 | And yes, today we are talking about keep your upbringing or past relationships from sabotaging |
| 0:24.6 | your relationship now. |
| 0:26.6 | And Jocelyn, as I usually say, where does this come from? |
| 0:30.6 | And I clearly know the answer, but go ahead. |
| 0:32.6 | Well, it came from multiple places. Number one, two episodes ago, we shared shared our story i shared about my upbringing being |
| 0:39.7 | totally different than yours if you haven't listened to that definitely listen i shared about |
| 0:43.3 | my parents getting divorce and the impact that hot on some of my relationships your relationship |
| 0:48.4 | or your upbringing being totally different you know your parents just the style they didn't |
| 0:53.1 | fight in front of you. |
| 0:54.9 | And so a lot of you messaged afterwards saying, oh my gosh, Jocelyn, our story is the same, |
| 1:00.2 | or oh my gosh, my upbringing was exactly like errands. Will you talk about ways to not have |
| 1:05.8 | our past or upbringing impact the relationship? So we're answering those questions. It'll be about tools and |
| 1:12.6 | ways to have your past not impact your current relationship, but then another place you wanted to share. |
| 1:18.8 | Well, yeah, and also that it wasn't that you have a good past or a bad past, whether it's with |
| 1:24.1 | family or friends, you know, your parents, whatever their relationship was, |
| 1:32.4 | you have a pass and it's probably somehow impacting your current relationship. |
| 1:37.6 | And we really want to dive into these areas where it might be sabotaging now your relationship with your current partner. |
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