The science of habit formation is that they run on a cue routine reward loop

Now when I started getting into looking at how we create courageous habits, you know I have been coming from an orientation for a while that courage is not about being

fearless. There's no one who's fearless. It's bullshit. Like anybody who's trying to sell you fearless,

like, like, look at the miscance

because it's not what happens.

We can feel afraid, we can lean into it,

we can transform self-doubt because we're leaning into it,

but we don't like ever disaster proof our lives or

never have those cues that make us feel afraid or fear is gonna come up if

you're like a living breathing human being and I had been thinking that that had been

integral to what I do for quite some time and when I started researching habit

formation I realized that the research on habit formation completely aligns with that philosophy. If you have a habit and

habits run on a cue, which is like a trigger routine, which is like a response you go into, and which is the place you're trying to get to

to alleviate whatever the cue is brought up.

The place to change a habit is not with the cue,

which is what a lot of us do, right?

Like we think that if only we can like eliminate the,

I mean I'm just thinking like it's January

when we're talking right now, so like the diet the diet culture right like if I just don't have sweets in my house I'll lose the weight you know like eliminating the cue if I just avoid that person that I don't get along with then I won't go into our argument mode with them.

We spend a lot of time trying to eliminate the cues and that's also where some of our

fantastical thinking if I had enough money for instance then my life

would be perfect can come from but in the research on habit formation the place

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