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Yeah, it's called being prosay when you represent yourself without an attorney.

I wouldn't necessarily recommend it unless, so I talked about, you know, I finally settled with him because I didn't have any more money.

I kind of wish in that situation I had thought about, well, I can continue to fight him and represent myself instead of just settling.

But it's good to have an attorney's advice as well if you can afford to have one.

But the thing is, it's so easy to rack up a ton of legal bills doing things that you could be doing yourself.

So you can try to keep the cost down by, even if you have to

write your own court motion, cat just walks across the microphone. There's a lot of it you can do

yourself and maybe just use the attorneys as minimal as possible. But honestly, Sarah, I wish there had been somebody or some magic

book I had read in the moment, but all of this I learned after the fact. And after it was too

late. I think it was towards the end, you know, Peter was constantly taking me to court, constantly.

And after recovery,

I kind of got the self-confidence that I don't have to do what he says or what his attorney says. And I just went through so many life experiences where I went along with what him or the

experts told me, well, this is what a judge is going to make you do.

And then in hindsight, I started to realize, as I just learned more and grew more confident, that that may not have necessarily been true.

So a lot of it was more after the fact.

But if I could do it differently, man, I would trust my gut. I would not have

settled and caved into things that deep down I felt uncomfortable about, you know, pick what your

deal breakers are. If you want to, you know, have your kids every Wednesday is important to you for

some reason, like, then stick to it. You know, if it's important to you to stay in the house, if Wednesday is important to you for some reason. Like then stick to it.

You know, if it's important to you to stay in the house, if it's important to you to have

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