Just How Happy Are YOU? And the One Toxic Trait That Kills Most Relationships

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🗓️ 9 November 2025

⏱️ 19 minutes

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A behavioral and happiness expert just gave a fascinating interview about the balance between happiness and unhappiness. Apparently we need both in our lives, but there are healthy and unhealthy ways of dealing with them. Amy and T.J. go over which countries report being happiest and unhappiest, what age range is the most joyful and what it is in our lives that actually makes us happy… FYI it’s not money. And, we talk about the one behavior that experts say ends most relationships!

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0:00.0	This is an IHeart podcast.
0:06.1	Hey there, everybody.
0:07.5	It's Sunday, November 8th, and we are asking you, how happy are you right now?
0:15.2	Take a beat.
0:16.0	Think about it.
0:16.8	Because today we're talking about the balance between happiness and unhappiness and the one toxic
0:22.6	trait that kills most relationships, according to experts.
0:25.8	It's one of the top four reasons for divorce.
0:28.1	It kills your happiness or it kills your relationship?
0:30.7	It kills your relationship.
0:33.0	But how happy are you right now?
0:35.9	In life, we're in my relationship because those are two different. I'm sorry, I don't know the direction we were going with this, so I'll stand by. No, how happy are you generally not? I mean, your relationship obviously weighs into your happiness, and we'll get into that. Didn't I sound sincere? We actually are, as we record this, we are in Miami. You already put it out there and told everybody where we were. Sorry. But I was on a stage last night, and what did you hear me say sincerely to that crowd? You said, I'm the happiest and healthiest I've been in my life. There you go. So there's your answer. All right. And I would also say that I, too, feel happy. And look, you're supposed to feel unhappy, too. And that's one of the really interesting things. So most people, and I think this is true, we spend our lives chasing happiness and avoiding or running away from unhappiness. Would you say that?
1:23.2	That's standard stuff. It's what you're supposed to do. What are you talking about here? I don't, where are we going with this?
1:27.2	All right. So a behavioral behavioral science scientist and happiness expert he's a professor
1:33.0	at harvard just gave an interview about the balance between happiness and unhappiness and he said
1:37.6	that those two emotions are actually processed in different hemispheres of your brain and you need
1:43.5	both i need to be unhappy yes why does this he said harvard in different hemispheres of your brain, and you need both.
1:45.9	I need to be unhappy.
1:46.5	Yes.
1:47.8	Why does this, you said Harvard?
1:48.6	Yes.
1:50.9	That doesn't automatically mean you have credentials, by the way.
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